What is the influence of interpersonal conflict in our daily lives and how to solve it harmoniously?
Uploaded by siuking on Apr 29, 2002
Interpersonal conflict is one of the most common situations we will face in our daily lives with our family members, relatives, friends or lover. Interpersonal conflict is often the result of negative cognitions, or thoughts. There is one way of defining interpersonal communication that is to compare it to other forms of communication. In doing so, we would examine how many people are involved, how physically close they are to one another, how many sensory channels are used, and the feedback provided. Interpersonal communication differs from other forms of communication in that there are few participants involved, the interactants are in close physical proximity to each other, there are many sensory channels used, and feedback is immediate. An important point to note about the contextual definition is that it does not take into account the relationship between the interactants.
We have many different relationships with people. Some researchers say that our definition of interpersonal communication must account for these differences. These researchers say that interacting with a sales clerk in a store is different than the relationship we have with our friends and family members. Thus, some researchers have proposed an alternative way of defining interpersonal communication. This is called the developmental view. From this view, interpersonal communication is defined as communication that occurs between people who have known each other for some time. Importantly, these people view each other as unique individuals, not as people who are simply acting out social situations.
Interpersonal conflict can be serious or just a little matter depend on the development of that situation, but if the situation seems to be silent that may not represent good at all, some researchers have identified several problems that typically arise in conflict situations. First, the parties will simply avoid the conflict. This can be damaging, because it can lead to greater problems in the future. It is usually best that the individuals discuss their differences. Second, individuals involved in conflict may blame the other individual. Often, individuals go beyond the specific behavior in question and blame the character of the person. When people use words such as, "He's such a slob," they are engaging in blame the other behavior. A final problem that is often encountered in conflict management is adopting a win-lose mentality. Focusing on each individual's goals/outcomes will help avoid using a win-lose strategy
One scholar of communication----Vaughan (1986) looks at one of the most...