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Albanian TeenagersWritten by: Unregistered Depending on the respective culture, the life of a teenager can vary greatly. Certain cultures demand more from their teenagers in terms of family obligations than do other cultures. For example, the typical social life of a teenager whose heritage is tied to Northern Albania demands that the teenager honor his or her family’s wishes above all else. The obligations and the respect that an Albanian teenager shows towards his or her family are very important, and that is what keeps the family tied to each other, and form a bond that not anybody can break. Being an Albanian teenager myself, and getting raised in Northern Albania gave me the knowledge to get to know the exact demands that the parent puts towards the child, and the obligations that the child is supposed to fulfill. The first rule is “The parent is always right” it doesn’t matter what the situation is, you always have to listen and obey. I think that that rule is very right, because the child doesn’t know anything, and they should now rely on what their mind says but on what the parents say. Also with this rule the child understands that the only person he can listen and know it is right is the parent. This makes the parent-child bond much stronger. The society around the Albanian children had a great impact on you too, because if you don’t follow the rules of the society then you would be considered a very “bad” person, and everybody would point you out for something you did. Also there were cases when the teenager would be pushed away from the family and the village. For example the most important demand that an Albanian girl has to fulfill is not to date or have sexual intercourse with anybody except for her husband after her marriage. You are expected to do that, and if you don’t then you would be considered the lowest person of all, and you wouldn’t find a man to marry you. Also your family is the one who chooses your husband, except for some cases you had no choice on your mate. If you choose him then he has to be Albanian and definitely from the same religion. For the boys is more different, because they have more choices and they don’t have as many limits as girls have. It seems that everything sounds so brutal and not fair for the Albanian teenagers. Not having a choice in what they do, and all these harsh demands that they have to fulfill, but the respect in the family towards each other is very high. There is a lot of love, and harmony. The “no sex before marriage” rule regulates the relationship the man and woman will have in the future. They will have more respect for each other when they know that the person they are with is all theirs. I think very strongly that the demands and obligations that the Albanian teenagers have to fulfill are very useful and right, because all these rules in the future, will bring harmony in these teenager’s lives.
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| Anila 2001-02-26 08:00AM | |
| I am from Albania and i am on my late teenage years and reading this essay i would say; it is true that we all obey our parents because they are always right, but not all the time. Times change we still keep our cuture and moral values but that doesnt mean that we follow the same path our parents did at past times which were old times. Its not necessarily true that a girl must not have sexual intercourse before marriage becuase nobody is gone want her as wife in future. The way how love and marriage works is love, understanding and commitment, always being sincere. (there is no restrictions who to choose for you and what religion your partner should have) In the old times love came after the marriage because the girl had no choice. But the man did have choices, becuase he saw the girl down the street and without confronting at her telling her how he felt, he tells his family to tell her family that he wants her to be his wife. And her family says yes because back then a family had 8 to 9 children and the first guy who asks for the girl parents say yes right away. What this girls marries a total strainger just becuase her family told her so? I dont find if relevent in many albanian women because in fact these woman had suffer abuse and verbal abuse by their husbands. And it's true that the women couldnt have a divorce back then because her husband god knows would terrorize her and her family or bit her up and manipulate the opinion of the society by telling that she got divorced because she was having afairs. And thats what people want in my country gossip like that as an everyday snack something to talk about and to be happy when other people have family problems like this. I have seen marriages fixed up the way the author is discribing on this essay and the truth and the fact is nomatter how a girl saves herself and not have sexual intercourse until she gets married still she will be verbaly abused by her husband in my country because the husband is the boss. The husband owes the wife completely especialy in North Albania, he controlls her thoughts, her clothes her total mind and body, which i would say wifes even get raped by their husbands, until they understand and obey that the man is in charge and she is the weak one. We are in year 2001 today the man still controls women in North Albania the same as man in America before Civil War. And thats why parents today use the same method because they are affraid that a woman gesture will ruin the reputation of the whole family and will be disliked in the albanina society. But a girl today as soon as she steps on 20s she is considered matured teenager and she is responsible for her own choices and actions. She is old enough to choose her partner for life and on the same time consulting with her parents. Because after all is not her parents who will get married to the guy is their daughter. | |
| kesla 2002-02-04 08:00AM | No Rating |
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i am an albanian teenager,and whether we like it or not everything she wrote is right but now things are changing even in albania although dramaticly slow | |
| kesla 2002-02-04 08:00AM | No Rating |
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i am an albanian teenager,and whether we like it or not everything she wrote is right but now things are changing even in albania although dramaticly slow | |
| luntik 2009-04-28 02:16AM | |
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